What was the common theme of the 3 out of 4?

When my wife and I dated, I told her that I loved her for a month before she returned the favor. Now before you claim me a ‘sucker’ and hopeless romantic, know that I was her friend for approximately 2 years before we dated; so I felt comfortable in baring my soul. I had periodically exposed my vulnerabilities throughout our friendship. She was not so open in sharing her life stories.  It figured, as there are clear stereotypes towards women versus men. However with time and determination, I truly got to know her. She or I have never experienced this level of intimacy. I believe our individual significant heartbreaks connected us. Our true desire not to re-live or go through the self-induced experiences. Exposing and committing to not repeating our failures with the help of God enhanced every area of our relationship.

Most are aware that 50% or more of married couples are ending their unions, annually. Some are surprised when their friends call it quits, while others are not. In the early 2000s, I had a professional photo taken of me, 4 friends, and one of my friend’s son. The natural stage of a man’s life occurred… we got married. Unfortunately, only 1 of those 4 guys remains in his marital relationship. Was this surprising? Somewhat. We (all) were men who had accepted Christ and I believe (still) truly desire to please Him. However, 75% of my close friends played a role in ending their most intimate earthly relationship. 

In reflecting on these marriages, there was a common theme. Lack of intimacy… verbally, emotionally, and relational. As the unknown date of their disunion became closer, you could visually and physically identify the disconnect. Unfortunately, my friends were unaware and possibly careless of their connections. The unwillingness to share, listen, sacrifice, and commit took its toll and the inevitable took place.

I relate these relationships to a person’s individual relationship to God. God has clearly revealed his passionate love for you in all ways. Fortunately, he has significant amounts of patience. He can endure longer than a month of saying ‘I love you’ before moving on to the next soul. Similar to marriage, it takes sincere expression to experience a high level of intimacy and its benefits. If you are unwilling to be humble, express gratitude and your desire and need for the relationship; you can expect a breach or hardships. The less you choose to share, the greater the disconnect becomes. Honestly, it’s a simple principle. The concept of becoming one requires being vulnerable in your relationship with God and your spouse. It’s very possible that the things you are afraid to share and do may be the ‘glue’ that holds your relationship together for a lifetime.

If you feel separate from God and have yet to accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, allow me to confirm your unhealthy spiritual relationship. Begin the process of being able to have strong unions with people by accepting the ultimate prototype for all relationships.

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