"How'd You Do That?"

My mom has been a major influence towards me dedicating my life to God through Jesus Christ. I’m not a ‘momma’s boy’ or the type of guy, who cried when he left home to go to college. As a matter of fact, I was ecstatic to leave home. My mom was the type of mother that was always ‘in your business’. I could not get away with anything. When I was doing something that I wasn't suppose to do; I felt that my mom knew about it or would find out. I invoked and witnessed her take a lot of criticism for her parenting. No matter the comments, she stuck to her agenda. Her basis was always Christ-driven. Quite honestly, in my hometown, raising Christian children was truly a challenge.

In my lifetime, I have had some of the craziest dreams. I’m sure you can relate. Some make no sense, while others are a reflection of my thought life. My wife typically is unable to recollect her dreams in great detail. I’m different. Being able to describe my dreams is not so difficult. Typically, they are so vivid and action pack, that it’s hard to forget. Every now and then, I will have a dream that I know is directly a message from God (Joel 2:28). Call it weird, if you want; however, I know that He is figuratively communicating.

One night in my mid-twenties, I dreamt about my mother. The dream started with me and my mom walking (together) past a subway entry. My mom decided to trot down the subway steps. I did not take this route, due to an unsettling feeling. As my mom started to walk down the steps, a creature began to approach her. It was an octopus. The species attacked her with swinging and grabbing tentacles. Within seconds, my mom began defending herself with only her two arms versus the octopus’ eight. After what seemed like minutes of fighting had passed, the octopus finally retreated back to its darkness in the subway. I was amazed and startled by Mom’s ability to fight off this monster. In approaching her, I asked ‘how’d you that?’ She responded, ‘Do not worry about me; I can take care of myself!’ Then, I awoke.

Immediately, the interpretation peacefully and clearly followed. The eight tentacles represented the several adversaries that she faced. Her faith in herself because of God’s promises enabled her to ‘fight off’ the attacks. My mom’s ongoing relationship with the Lord allowed her to succeed in this battle. On the other hand, my unwillingness to walk the same path was connected to my doubts in completely surrendering to God. The revelation was amazingly clear. The disclosure of this dream remains with me to this day. What a remarkable legacy to leave your child. That is, the assurance of your child knowing for what you stand. To ingrain your belief in your child’s being to the point that your offspring dreams about your God-seeking faith.

Now, my mother was not (and is not) perfect. She will transparently tell you the same. As most parents, she has expressed some regrets in the raising of her children. I personally believe any caring parent has these feelings in reflecting moments, no matter their child’s age or overall well-being. However, one thing she will not have to question is her children’s (at least, this child) understanding of Who she serves, worships, and places her hope and faith. The answer to that question would be God through her personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

This Christmas, many parents will shop for the best gifts desired. If their children are anything like my children, they will accept and play with their Christmas gift for a season. By Spring Break, they will move on to the next best toy. Most parents do not mind this process, as they understand; this is the way of a child. For me to give my son a gift that he would forever cherish would be a miracle. Luckily for me, my mom presented a gift that I would one day receive and choose to use for the rest of my life. This gift has given me complete hope in my future (Deuteronomy 5:29), the ability to truly overcome (Ephesians 6:10-17), wisdom (James 1:5), and so many more things.

It’s the most perfect time of the year to reintroduce yourself to your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and become more committed in service and worship. It’s also a good time to ask yourself ‘why?’, if you have not given your life to God through Jesus Christ. Beginning the questioning process of your salvation and life must start at some point. If you are unable to answer your children regarding your faith, you need to examine yourself. Whether you consider your faith a legacy or not, it will be. It’s human nature for your child to answer the question themselves, if you do not. Get a hold of TRUTH, and then communicate this through your words and actions to your children (or anyone). This is without a doubt, the best present throughout a lifetime, that you can offer your child (or anyone).

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Best Marital Advice I’ve ever received…

Although, my wife and I were not going to be married in our local church; we decided to take advantage of their free pre-marital classes. The group setting courses were very interactive and informal. Many of the speakers transparently discussed the failures and victories in their marriage. This fostered a comfortable atmosphere which led to honest feedback and in-depth discussions.

One of the speakers was an obviously fit, middle aged man. I immediately noticed his dress attire, which consisted of blue jeans, gym shoes, and a button shirt. As bad as it sounds, I also noticed that his clothing were not popular name brands. At this particular church, the staff generally always was overwhelmingly presentable. It wasn’t that his clothing was unprofessional, but it was the fact that it differed from everyone else.

When he walked to the podium, I internally fought my narrow-mindedness. I was well aware that it was rude to judge a man based on his appearance. His subject was family finance. The passion he exuded, promoted me to become an active listener. The sermon consisted of his favorite financial exhortations along with scriptural references. All of the suggestions were extremely reasonable and refreshing, but his last proposal ‘raised some eyebrows’. “Do your best to live on one (whether husband or wife) income.” My first thought, after he made the remark, was ‘…no wonder you are dressed that way.’ As soon as my wife and I sat in our car, I directly commented on his clothing and one income theory. Six years later and now successfully practicing this financial principle, I realized that specific suggestion was the best marital advice I have received. Good news arrived. Due to not being delivered by a well-known, well dressed, highly charismatic minister, but a conservatively dressed man, I found it difficult to receive.

In accepting Jesus Christ and His ways, one can experience the same emotions. Similar to living on one income, His methods are totally opposite of mainstream views. “It is more blessed to give than receive. The greatest among you will be your servant. Tell the mountain to be cast into the sea without any doubt and it will be done.” When Jesus spoke these words many people surrounding him did not accept His principles. They could not bypass a carpenter’s son considering himself the Son of God. Although, they marveled at his wisdom… the hardening of their hearts blocked God’s blessing of salvation and abundant life. To this date, the same practice is taking place. Yet due to God’s grace, mercy, and patience, He has strategically placed his disciples amongst people who desperately need hope, guidance, and unconditional love.

Life experiences challenged me to accept the one income lifestyle as my life of sin challenged my acceptance of Christ and his principles. The hearing of each caused an internal conflict and produced doubtful emotions. Although, I did not like the ‘how to’; I did like the end-result testimony shared. A sense of urgency to commit was experienced. In both submissions, the harvest has been plentiful. I’m eternally grateful for God’s mercy and patience. His grace is truly sufficient.

The bible states God does not show partiality. So what He will do for me, He will do for you. In today’s time, there are several media outlets, books, magazines, outreaches, ministries, and people expressing their love for Christ. If you live in America, it is impossible to have not heard God’s plan of salvation and abundant life. If you haven’t already accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, the time will come when God will ask you why you did not. You could, like me, be experiencing issues with the messenger. That is totally normal; however, rejecting the Message isn’t acceptable to experience God’s will for your life. Unfortunately, God will not accept your inability to relate as a ‘pass’ into His glory. Accept the message! God is calling you, receive His gift. Maybe later in life, you will understand His messengers.

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The post-game experience: from Abuser to Lover, Pt. 2

My high school sweetheart was a very thin and tall with a significantly petite frame. After meeting at a basketball tournament, our relationship quickly turned into a teenage love affair. Prior to dating me, she was involved in a relationship with a flamboyant, aggressive, ‘freakishly-athletic’ guy. He had a difficult time letting their past dating relationship go. On several occasions when we were hanging out in her hometown, we would run into him. He would make several direct and bluntly rude remarks with the intentions of embarrassing and challenging me. At their local park, he and I would have intense basketball battles that were typically one foul away from becoming a fist fight. Profanity-laced trash talking and prolonged stares were abundant. Our feud became so intense that people around us always expected a fight, when he or I entered a room where one was already present.

This personal high school rivalry did not keep me from accepting a scholarship to play basketball in my girlfriend’s hometown. Unfortunately, this also was the place that her ex-boyfriend resided. Ironically, when I moved to the new area, my run-ins with my nemesis were rare. However, when we did see each other; it was awkward and heart pumping.

He shared a child with one of the college’s cheerleaders. I really did not know much about her, but I was aware their relationship was volatile. At my first college basketball game, he was present being loud as ever. I was a ‘bench-warmer’. Throughout the whole game, he was in the crowd letting me know about it. Although, the mother of his child had moved on with another dating relationship; she was becoming visibly upset by his demonstrative behavior. After the game ended, I quickly dressed and visited with my mom in the parking lot. All of sudden about 100 yards away, I heard a nervous commotion. Being so distant, I wasn’t quite sure of what was taken place, but had a really good idea. I abruptly left my mom and ran to the scene fearing my girlfriend was being attacked. To my relief, he was not bothering her; however, he was shoving the mother of his child. The large crowd (including my coach and the college president) watching the scene was wordless. In my disbelief that no one was saying or doing anything, I immediately blurted out, ‘Get your hands off of her!’ These were the words that broke through the tension he and I had carried for over a year.

When he identified I was the person that subconsciously ordered him to discontinue his harassing, he charged me. His first connection fractured my jaw, but fortunately for me, I had a size advantage. I was able to overpower him through wrestling. Within seconds of being on top and swinging landing only a few punches, I felt a foot connect with my right rib tossing me to the ground. Then, his family members ‘bum rushed’ me into the ground. There were a total of three guys fiercely unloading on my body before someone (still not sure who) decided to pull them away from me. Getting my butt kicked (literally) my freshman year in college was a crazy experience that I will never forget.

Ironically, years later, what I fought against is what I became. The constant rejection of God led to further debauchery of my spirit and well-being. This caused me to become desensitized to the very things that I most disgusted (Romans 1:28). It is common for this process to happen to people. Unfortunately, fallen ministers are a perfect example. Most Christian ministers wholeheartedly believe the words in the Bible; however, they have the same vulnerabilities as laymen and aren’t excluded to Satan’s attacks. Due to not quickly repenting, they fall short. In all cases, when God is speaking to you about a matter; it would benefit you to immediately do as He request. Your disobedience will eventually harvest.

In my case (and I believe in most people), I saw myself being violent (sinning) before it happened. These images should have been surrendered to the Word of God (2 Corinthians 10:5). In this world, there are so many images and words hovering. If you are not careful, those images and words can become your life; no matter how much you detest them. In staying close to the Lord, your ability to detract sinful thoughts into becoming a lifestyle is higher. Also, remaining transparent about your temptations will help extinguish the fire (James 5:16).

As our loving God pursued David in order to get his attention of an adulterous relationship with Bathsheba (2 Samuel 12), He is using me for YOU. The analogies that I provide are my life stories with the hopes that you will dedicate your heart and existence to God through Jesus Christ. It first starts with a true desire to serve the living God. There is no true wisdom without Christ (James 3:17).

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from Abuser to Lover

After grabbing my fiancée by the neck and slamming her to the floor, I stumbled around my bedroom fuming mad with feelings of self-righteousness and misunderstanding. The action caused her to run away in complete terror. I recall going in the bathroom looking into the mirror and feeling extremely justified in my actions. Within minutes, a friend who dated my fiancée’s roommate was knocking at the door. I wasn’t quite sure of what his actions would be, but I allowed him to enter. He spoke to me with concern. He had witnessed and discerned the recent internal struggle in my life. The stress of being engaged, starting a new job and graduate school was more than I could emotionally and physically bear. Also, I had been heavily dealing with my spiritual convictions in a non-constructive way. This avoidance and ‘fence-riding’ led to a deeper emotional and spiritual abyss.

After this concerned friend left, I still felt no remorse. After a few hours passed; I was confronted with the reality that this engagement to be married could be no more. That really bothered me for obvious reasons. Despite the abuse I inflicted, I was sincerely in love and committed. After about a day or so, my fiancée and I spoke over the phone about the incident. She was afraid, surprised, and upset. It was obvious that this union was over. I begged, pleaded, and promised to no avail. It was over, rightfully so.

The end literally brought me to my knees because I knew before starting this relationship that God had spoken to me about surrendering my life for His will. This break was the ultimate devastation of my young adult life. It was at this very point that I surrendered my life to God. Disgusted with what I had become, realizing where I was heading, and losing the love of my young life got my attention. I cried out to the Lord repenting and begging.

The ‘I will do this, if You will do this’ plea was verbally applied. I immediately became selfishly and immaturely convinced that God wanted this relationship to work. I was desperate in my attempts to reconcile but failed. Due to the limitations I placed on God, my fears of never experiencing this type of love were consistent and real and further encouraged false hopes. How could I have been so idiotic to think, that those actions would have not led to a break-up or even more (prison)? This was the lowest I had (have) ever felt. This self-created environment was agonizing.

I started taking the necessary steps of healing. Things were changing in my life. I and others noticed a difference. When I would give my testimony, people had a hard time connecting me with being an abuser. Throughout this entire process, I remained hopeful that I would be given a second chance from the woman I was once engaged. This opportunity never came. For several years, it was very difficult for me to accept the consequences of my sins. My hopes for another shot at a healthy relationship were bleak.

There are times in life, when we all feel completely defeated and hopeless. Contrary to how we feel and what we see, we must remember, ‘God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him’ (Hebrews 11:6). Despite the shortcomings in life, ‘we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose’ (Romans 8:28). What may seem as God’s best may not be His best for you. No matter how insignificant or significant, reflection is mandated in seeing the goodness of the Lord in a believer’s life. You must first truly believe in God’s word for these promises to be impactful. Believing in God’s word will allow the Bible to be the final authority in your thinking and actions (John 14:15). This will lead to a peaceful and harmonious life.

The moral of my story: I being terrible and deceitful in my acts repented by choosing a different Path. I made a mess of a promising relationship, and then endured a season of grief. I asked the Lord to change my heart and help me become what He needed me to be. In seeking Him my mind is being made ‘right’. This makes it easier to identify His treasures. One fortune was a good wife for me. In performing my past acts, did (do) I deserve these gifts? I did not; however, God has rewarded me. The same can happen to you as it did me. God can meet and exceed your needs and reasonable wants.

My plea is for you to surrender. Life is mostly made complicated by our decision making; however, this does not have to be so. Being in accord with God, helps simplify living. Do not allow your sins to deeply affect a love one before you ‘fall to you knees’. The thought process behind ‘God getting your attention’ is not biblical by any means. It is not necessary for you to reach such spiritual depth before you give your will to God. He can turn your life around this very moment, but you first must decide to allow the change of your heart.

If you have read my past blogs, you know my purpose is pointing you toward Jesus Christ. There is no ulterior motive in my actions. Your salvation and faith in a righteous God and Savior is my goal. I’m trying to help you see the Light in this dark world. Do not be deceived by religion without Jesus Christ. This will lead you to heartache, misery, confusion, and pain. God has made a way; so accept it, begin your real life, and be prosperous and blessed.

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Deliverance

At my old church, there was a deliverance ministry. For those who are unfamiliar with the term, deliverance; it is a word used to describe a person being freed from ungodly spiritual bondage. Through my times of worldly living, I developed some habits that were not instantly broken when I committed my life to Christ. It required some serious prayer, desire to change, discipline to live, and Holy Spirit to obey. Throughout the struggle of letting go of an unhealthy spiritual identity, I realized the power of God to change lives. One of the biggest struggles I faced was my love for secular hip-hop music.

In reaching out for help from my church, I met with three older Christian men. I exposed personal vulnerabilities with the intentions of receiving prayer and guidance. My expectations were met. During the meeting, I remembered informing the guys that I loved ‘hip-hop’. Without any hesitation, they quickly said that my passion for secular music would go away. Don’t ask me why, but I felt (at the time) that they were too lax in their approach regarding my concern for this matter. Before this church, I was a member of two different churches that taught about the power of words (speaking and listening). The music that I preferred was not edifying my spirit for Kingdom thinking. I needed to be free, now. This is what I expressed, but there was no stress; they simply reassured me.

I left there feeling unchanged in this area. Confirmation of change would have been nice. Months later, I can recall watching a Jay-Z video and becoming emotional because of how much his music moved me. I loved Jay-Z. However, as I matured in my Christian walk, I started noticing different emotions when listening to hip-hop. My spirit would become uneasy, irritable, and righteously upset with the words spoken. I realized how Satan was using music to deliver evil spirit-filled words that were contrary to God’s word. My eyes were opened to what was really going on. The music (sound of instruments) was still enticing, but not the words. The deception of the words behind the music was revealed to me in a way that made it distasteful.

The assurance of my deliverance from the ministers emerged. I was free, indeed. In the realm of music, my spirit was aligned with God’s word. God liberated me to a point that today my IPod is only filled with Christian preaching. I believed that my true desire to honor God in my hearing manifested into this habit. The biblical words of death and life are in the power of the tongue, let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, and that, men will have to give account for every foolish word they have said had come alive in my heart.

Please do not take what you hear and say lightly. In this media age, it is a constant battle not to be engulfed in sinful words. Comedies, Dramas, Music, and even the news provide the opportunity to begin speaking and thinking in an ungodly way. Unless you are planning on becoming media-free, the task of speaking and hearing only biblical principles is near impossible.

This is the case for most that choose to live a godly life. Christians are constantly provided with opportunities to live contrary to God’s will. No matter your stand for God, you will face opposition. If you are unaware of God’s help through the Holy Spirit (John 14:26) to enable you to live a blameless lifestyle, you may become overwhelmed. Living for God takes more than claiming a religion and asking Jesus to come into your heart. It takes consistent word reading, godly accountability, prayer, and a desire to serve the Lord. God has commanded that we live separate and not to love anything of the world (1 John 2:15-17). Quite frankly, this is a difficult commandment to consistently live on your own.

As you read this blog, the Holy Spirit may bring to your attention a few opportunities to exemplify your love for the Lord. It is your job as a Christian to deal with these issues. Freedom can be yours, but it first must begin with your repentance and confession. Acknowledging how the world has a grasp on you is the beginning of deliverance from any issue. Aligning your thoughts with the Word (Proverbs 23:7) of God will grant you more freedom than you can ever imagine. Trust God to do His part and meet you where you are (James 4:8). With your consistent seeking of His will for your life in this area, He will renew your spirit to align with His plan (Hebrews 11:6). Trust the Lord’s ability to change your life for I am a living witness.

Da Paperboy!

After about 3 months of moving into our neighborhood, my wife and I realized that God blessed us with something we didn’t pray for- great neighbors! Within months, we would congregate outside enjoying our children’s play and the beautiful weather. We quickly decided that having a block party would be beneficial for better community relations. In doing this, we would be able to meet distance neighbors from the opposing end of the street.

At our block party, I was fortunate to meet a respectable, God-fearing, and honorable young man. I was captivated by the high school student’s wishes to please the Lord. He spoke eloquently about his upbringing from inner city to suburbia to his relationship with mentors, church members, and parents. All encompassed his current relationship with Jesus Christ.

He was (is) the prototype of a young Christian man. Listening to him inspired better parenting and a personal relationship with God. I desire for my sons, what he genuinely modeled. In a world where it’s extremely common for children to be negatively influenced; a spiritually healthy adolescent is a ‘beacon of hope’ for parents raising small children.

He recently released his first Christian Rap album titled ‘Read All About It’. I was blessed with the opportunity to video interview, Daniel ‘Da Paperboy’ Cooper. During this interview, he shares his passion for glorifying God, encouraging words to parents, and more.

Please take the time to listen and watch the video. You will be encouraged!

Da Paperboy from The Seminary DropOut on Vimeo.

A better way

When I was single, I hated it. Call me a punk, soft, weird, conservative, or whatever; but, I’ve always been the ‘marrying’ type. Secretively, in my late night club pursuits, the objective wasn’t the one night stand, but to meet someone whom I could share my life. An attractive, opposite-sex friend with some similar dislikes and likes who could (and wanted to) deal with all my quirks for a lifetime was my camouflaged goal.

After seven years of being single, God unexpectedly blessed me with what I was looking for. Seven years (approximately 2,555 days) of singleness was an emotionally lonely period. However, it was a time that I truly gained an appreciation for women. I went from having girlfriends to having girls who were simply friends. Of course, it took help from God (Holy Spirit) to live this way. My former life required (requires) heavy reliance on God’s promises and protection toward living a holy lifestyle. At times, I did fail, but those times of failure and repentance made marriage even more appealing.

I have been married for over five years. I’m still a rookie ‘in this game’; however, some realism has set in. Most ulterior motives and unrealistic expectations have been exposed. Arguments, dirty diapers, emotionally-driven purchases, sexless nights, demanding children, and weeks of casseroles have helped me identify with most married couples. In each of these situations, the ‘get me out of here as fast as possible’ thought has crossed my mind more times than once. Fortunately, I haven’t had the guts or true desire to walk away from my wife and children.

Before I married, I was cognizant that this was a decision. I was aware that if I was marrying for Hollywood sex, grilled ribeyes and apple pie for dinner, lingerie, and an easily submissive wife, that I was deceiving myself. Marriage had been communicated as an act of service. The Bible and other Christian influences made it clear and it was clearly understood. So on my marriage day, I made a commitment to God, His Son, His Spirit, my wife, my son, my mother-in-law, my father-in-law, my grandparents-in-law, my parents, my grandparents, my siblings, and my friends. Each person present was affected by my decision to marry. Therefore, it would be ironic and selfish to think that the same people would not be adversely affected, if I choose to split from my wife.

I know that marriage is a risk, even if you marry the ‘right person’. That my spouse can gain 100 pounds, become an addict, have an affair, physically harm me, or simply decide that she no longer loves me. Due to my lack of experience with these issues, I’m ignorant of the emotions that are attached. As a Christian, it took me little time to realize that being a part of God’s family didn’t exempt me from being emotionally or physically hurt. The certainty of being offended or ‘let down’ by my spouse was evident. No one (Christians and non-believers) whom I ever met with has endured years of marriage without a major argument or outstanding disagreement.

Regardless of what I saw in others and the fear of the unknown, in my time alone, God had demonstrated His faithfulness. His ability to work out my self-inflicted circumstances, when I totally submitted to His will, was impeccable. God’s faithfulness gave me a sense of self-assurance, that no matter what I experienced in marriage; he would carry me through… if I choose! If I abided in His will regarding marriage, that I would be a success. That is right, I.

Unfortunately, we are incapable of making decisions for other people. God has given us all free will. In being godly, you should allow the same freedom for your spouse regarding marital decisions. With this said, God has set guidelines for the husband and wife. Christian marriages should be governed by these laws. It is an expectation of marriage that you will be honored, respected, and loved; yet, this is an atmosphere that has to be created. For most, this does not come easy. There are many worldly influences that consistently fight against this thought process. That is why it’s imperative that you study and follow God’s word.

Will you avoid separation and divorce? Only you and your spouse can answer this question. For both begin with a thought, that if not submitted to God’s word will override your covenant. God is for you and has given you all the resources needed to succeed. I have noticed in my marriage; the more I serve and obey the Lord, the better my marriage. As serving and obeying the Lord is a direct correlation to a healthy marriage. God instructions to us all (married or not) is to serve one another (Galatians 5:13), treat people the way you want to be treated (Matthew 7:12), consider others better than yourself (Philippians 2:3), and to share (Romans 12:13). As funny as it sounds; these are traits that my 2 year old is learning in Mother’s Day Out. This is how elementary God has made His word, so that every man and woman can understand it and be victorious. There are no excuses! If you can read, then you can choose to obey, and thrive in all relationships, especially marriage.

Remember, a healthy and joyful Christian marriage starts first with accepting God’s plan for salvation. Of course, a personal relationship with Jesus Christ is not required to have a happy marriage, but salvation is.

Be encouraged!

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I don’t need this

YESTERDAY, I started reading my devotional. As I began to read, I noticed that the topic was forgiveness. Immediately, I decided that I didn’t need to hear another message about forgiveness, because there wasn't anyone that I needed to forgive. This same day, I needed to mow my front lawn. So, I downloaded the latest sermons of some of my favorite ministers to my IPod. I assumed this would be a good substitute. As usual, the messages were motivating, inspiring, and Christ centered.

TODAY, I woke up beginning my morning ritual of email checking and coffee drinking. During this time, I noticed that there were still old basketball pictures lying on my desk, which I had scanned to add to my Facebook page for fun. This sparked me to check my alma mater’s media guide. Earlier in the month, I had told my wife and oldest son that I had broken the school’s top 10 in two categories for a single season and career records. After the completion of my senior season, I was given a document created by the university’s media relations department indicating single season and career stats. As I looked through the media guide stats, I saw familiar names. However, my name was no where to be found for the stats in which I should have been recognized (according to university’s media relations document). Immediately, I was offended and took it personal.

My college basketball playing years were complex. At times, it was absolutely awesome in all ways; while at other times, it was miserable. My head coaches and I never saw ‘eye to eye’. As mentioned in past blogs, I always challenged authority. My senior season was no different. Although, I was a team captain and starter; I did not hold back on sharing my dislikes for my head coach. Needless to say, he was not a player’s coach. Some of my concerns and comments were legitimate, but not necessary. This boldness caused a major conflict. By the end of the season, he openly confessed in front of the team that he knew that I did not like him and that the feeling was mutual. I could go on with different scenarios, but I feel the point has been made. He did not like me and I did not like him.

My relationship with my coach disturbed me for awhile. I can remember praying about disappointment in authority relationships; asking God to help me forgive and to be forgiven for my insubordination. During this prayer, my coach was mentioned. I thought this was final. However, when my name was not recognized for hard-earned records; I immediately became emotionally hostile exclaiming to my wife, that he possibly singled me out. All the memories resurfaced along with the past emotions. My patient and understanding wife reassured and encouraged me that it was possibly overlooked. After I told her several stories about this coach with hopes that she would see things my way, she asked me if I had read my devotional today. I hadn’t.

After I calmed down, I opened my devotional. The devotional is day specific with month and date. I searched for August 21st. I began reading it, but wasn’t quite sure why my wife thought ‘being light in a dark world’ had anything to do with our conversation. I quickly glanced to August 20th, which was the adjoining page and figured it out. My wife was a day behind in her devotionals. Today, she read about forgiveness. This was the same devotion, which I neglected the day before due to my ego. The lesson I learned from this situation is apparently simple. Always read my devotional, no matter what the subject or where I (believe I) stand in my relationship with God.

Proverbs 16:18 states ‘Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall’ (English Standard Version: ESV). Man, oh man, did I fall! Thankfully, I heeded the encouragement to seek the Lord, which helped realign my actions and thoughts. God is so faithful and continues to provide substance. The Spirit-led Bible study written years ago was exactly what I needed to sustain me for the upcoming day. However, I chose not to partake in what God had provided. There are so many promises in the Word of God to help us in today’s times. The error in our ways are many. From believing that the Bible is irrelevant (not literal), old-fashioned/conservative to too simple leads to a path of devastation. God’s word is relevant in every form. There is no subject matter that He has failed to cover. Parenting, marriage, career, forgiveness, friendships, etc. can all still thrive in today’s world, if you follow His guidance. Not only one area will you prevail, but all.

There are plenty of worldly examples of success in single areas of life (such as financial accumulation), but not all areas. Many celebrities excel in developing riches and material wealth. As rich as they may be, most fail in other vital areas. Without accepting God’s provided substance for life, they will fall short. No one is excluded from this principle. Celebrities are simply the easy target. Jesus Christ said it best, ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God (Matthew 4:4-ESV). Knowing, believing, and following only a few scriptures will give few successes. Knowing, believing, and following all scripture will give you overall success in every area of life.

If you find yourself failing in an area of life, pick up a Bible and seek instruction. God will help you overcome. Take it from me; it’s best to be prepared for Satan's attacks. He’s crafty and recognizes your vulnerable areas. Do not ever let down your guard with arrogance, as I did. If so, you will be defeated. Remain in prayer, be on guard, and consistently rely on God’s word. In doing this, you will succeed.

Stay encouraged!

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No complaints

“That’s some good ole’ keep your mouth shut!” Kenneth Copeland

When I first heard this, I started laughing hysterically almost wrecking my car. Kenneth Copeland is one of my favorite Christian ministers to hear. He’s hilarious, brutally honest, old-school, and faith-filled. I view his preaching style as a grandfather speaking to his grandchildren. To say the least, I thoroughly enjoy his personality and scriptural deliverance. On this particular day, he was speaking on maintaining your faith in God’s promises. His direct encouragement was watching your talk; being sure that you were not speaking the opposite of The Blessing. To be truthful, I can’t remember the exact scripture that he referenced before speaking the aforementioned quote. However, that quote stuck with me.

I have always been drawn to faith-filled churches. As a matter of fact, the name of the church were I rededicated my life to Jesus Christ is Faith Clinic Christian Center Church. God was obviously aware that my faith needed some healing and guidance. This church was the foundation to my Christian walk. There was a scripture that was included in almost every sermon, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue…” (Proverbs 18:21). It made such an impact on me, that I have had it attached to my email signature for years. The church trained members to be careful of what we said; no words opposite of God’s will were taken lightly. Even after being a member for one full year, I thought it was weird and to be honest, cult-like. However, as I have matured in the Lord, I have come to realized the power of our and others speech and my prejudice views.

Did you know that when you pray the will of God (that is, scripture based prayers), that you are to believe that your prayer will be answered, according to His word (Mark 11:24)? For instance, God has promised us, that if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead; you will be saved (Romans 10:9). Some have no problem accepting Romans 10:9 but have more difficulty in accepting other promises God has given us.

I can remember when I first started giving; I had the hardest time accepting Luke 6:38. First of all, I wasn’t giving with the intentions to receive, but to hear that I would receive the way I was giving didn’t quite mentally register. I would confess in church this promised blessing of God before giving my tithes and offering. Later, I would find myself doubtingly joking with friends that I didn’t care if I received or not; I simply gave because it felt good. Thank God, that he is faithful and ‘sticks’ to His words. As I did receive, based on what he commanded. My point is that my faith didn’t align with God’s word. I would confess His words, but later deny His power to fulfill. According to 2 Timothy 3:5, due to my lack of faith, I was a person that Christians were to avoid. Wow! That’s how serious God is about taking His word to heart.

He does not want Christians having communion with Christians, who deny, that He can do what He says He can do. According to thefreedictionary.com, one of the definitions for deny is ‘refusing to believe.’ In this case, this definition definitely applies. Abraham believed God had the power to do what he said he would do (Romans 4:20-25). Through Abraham, we are heirs of The Promise by accepting Jesus Christ. We are to do and confess what God said. Being that we are consistently watched by unbelievers for authenticity, your behavior and definitely words need to be aligned with God’s.

One of the most unselfish wills that God gave is for all men to be saved (1 Timothy 2:1-4). As I have clearly stated in past blogs, I was a tremendous sinner. However, I’m saved through Jesus Christ. If you would have met me 15 years ago, you may not have believed that I would have accepted God’s plan for salvation. If you would have been praying for me to accept Christ as Savior, you may have doubts based on my behavior. Also, if you held relationships with people, who believed that I would never ‘get it together’, your faith confession for my salvation would have become even harder to believe. Eventually, the war of God’s words versus what you saw and worldly words would have taken full battle. More than likely, you would have begun speaking the opposite of God’s word. I have seen this happen many times in my life and the life of others. It typically starts subtle, but eventually adversely affects your prayer of what you believe God for. James 5:16 states the prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective. Abraham was credited as righteous because he believed in God (Genesis 15:6). In order for you to be consider righteous, you must whole heartedly believe in God, as well, or your prayers are not effective.

Begin watching your tongue, the slightest negative word has the power to ruin your entire day, week, year, and possibly life. Also, this may hinder your prayer from being answered because of your double-mindedness. If you are clearly praying God’s will, mix your faith with patience and allow God to demonstrate His faithfulness. In the meantime, until your faith is aligned with God’s; it's best to simply keep your mouth shut! As the saying goes, “if you do not have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all’.

Keep it righteous!

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Bull Head!

In the early 90’s, high top fades with several parts and word art were popular hair cuts styles. The 90’s were in my teenage years, so of course, I had the most recent hair design. My childhood barber was good at meeting my request. He was an extremely bright and creative guy, who could freestyle rap at any moment; creatively find humor in non-humor situations. One day, while cutting my hair, this extroverted barber noticed the significant difference between the size of my head and his other customers. The flood gates of jokes began. The most memorable is his explanation of how he should charge me for two haircuts, instead of one because of my head size. After what seemed like an eternity, he discontinued his joking by closing his performance in nicknaming me ‘Bull Head’.

At first, it seemed that only his family favored the new nickname. However with time, it became pretty popular with the men and my peers in the community. When my dad first heard ‘Bull Head!’ he hysterically laughed. He claimed that it was perfect. He thought it was given to me, because of my stubbornness. Instead of the head the size of a bull, he viewed it as the temperament of a bull. Unfortunately, it was justifiable no matter how you viewed it. I absolutely hated when someone told me what to do. Also, my head was larger than any of my friends.

After leaving my neighborhood for college, the nickname faded away. No one at my new residence called me, ‘Bull Head!’ Although, the nickname wasn’t with me any longer, the head and stubbornness were. I still resented when any authority corrected me; even the more, if I felt they were a person unworthy of my respect. A college basketball coach quickly became this identity. Although, my coach was inducted into two halls of fame for his career achievements; I did not overall respect him. I didn’t feel respected, so he received no respect regardless of his authority and position as my coach. Verbally sharing with coaches, bosses, and professors my discontent with their ability to lead, instruct, and relate became a lifestyle.

In my mind, it was justifiable. If you lacked passion, care, and concern for leading, coaching, or teaching people and held a position that allowed you to do so; someone needed to let you know. That someone typically was me. Regardless of the ramifications, I spoke my mind. “I was keeping it real!” I was being ‘Bull Head!’ It wasn’t that I hated authority, but I hated when authority didn’t live up to my personal standards. This is why; I was so comfortable for such a long time verbally belittling them.

Not until I was married did I truly realize that I had an issue with authority. My conservatively outspoken wife challenged my behavior. Also, being in a leadership position allowed empathy for those I had brutally critiqued. Romans 13:1-2, read as follows…

Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves.

Bringing judgment on oneself is exactly what I was doing. No one needed to ‘call me out’ as the Holy Spirit gently reminded me how I wasn’t living up to the standards that I had set for others. After a few years of management roles, fatherhood, and being a husband, humility set in. Life circumstances taught me that I’m better off staying true to God’s Word regarding authority.

Being disobedient to this scripture can be accomplished on many levels. Maliciously complying to your boss, while discussing your dislike for him/her does not honor God. Belittling the President of the United States for any matter is contrary to God’s will. Falsifying details about your spouse to friends and family shame your God-given covenant of marriage. Criticizing your parent’s child rearing is dishonorable. Whether your claims are somewhat justifiable, this behavior weakens your testimony as a Christian and according to Romans 13, forecast judgment.

Through most awkward authority relationship, there was something that God desired for me to learn. I believe this to be the same for most people. David succeeded in his efforts to obey God regarding authority. At the time David was anointed King of Israel, there was an acting king, Saul. Saul was selected as king upon the request of the Israelites. After a battle against the Philistines, Saul disobeyed God by keeping property that was informed to be destroyed. After Saul’s disobedience, God rejected him as king and anointed David. David rose in fame amidst his people. Upon hearing of David’s killing of Goliath, Saul requested the assistance of David. As David became more popular, Saul’s jealousy manifested into a murdering evil spirit. David ran away from Saul. Throughout this period of ‘cat and mouse’, David had opportunities to kill Saul. However, he did not. The bible states that David would not harm the ‘… Lord’s anointed’ but was aware that the Lord would deal with him justly (1 Samuel 9-24). What integrity, patience, and faith it took for him to be so honorable.

Unfortunately, in this life, we will be given many opportunities to be ‘David or Bull Head’. Choose to be a David in your authority relationships. Recognize that David provided a godly example in his behavior. Doing so will emulate true Christianity, as Jesus submitted to the cross under the world’s authority for the sake of God’s will. We are to peacefully do the same. Although, the size of your head may be smaller than mine; you still can be a ‘Bull Head’! Remember, harming authority begins with a thought. Be sure to align your thoughts to the will of God (2 Corinthians 10:5).

Stay encouraged!

Know your role

Starting a blog has helped keep me on course to pursuing my God-given calling in life. Although, I’m not sure where I’m specifically headed; I’m sure that my post are a testament of Jesus Christ. Each month, I seek the Lord in what He desires to communicate through me. I’m amazed of what I can recall in scripture to solidify the message. Sometimes, the perfection for clarity makes it hard to illustrate the point. Wrapping everything together for the sake of exalting God through Jesus Christ can be challenging.

Most times, the biggest concern is not to be opinionated, but biblical. During my short stint in seminary, a professor once said that if she came to hear a student preach and it was opinion, not biblically, based that she would leave during the message. This remains with me as I write these blogs. I certainly have an opinion about most. Communicating God’s opinion (will) for every matter is the goal.

All of us have God-given talents. The pursuit of how we use these tools to glorify God is our job. Jesus told a parable about a journeying nobleman who left money for his servants. Upon his return, he held accountable each servant who received money. The men, who invested and profited their master, were considered good and granted more based on their willingness to work with what was given. The servant who did not invest was labeled ‘wicked and lazy’ and removed from the master’s protection (Matthew 25:14-30).

The same principle applies to God’s children. As aforementioned, God has given us all talents. Some use their talents to endorse self, while others exercise their gifts to magnify God and edify others. The best general example of using talents selfishly may be secular musical artists. Many begin with a whirlwind of success in their respective genre of music only to later significantly decline with a life involving drugs, alcohol, failed relationships, and many more ungodly attachments. To a certain extent, their ability to perform may still be present (due to God’s faithful grace), but their life a mess filled with years of debt and deceit. As the master states in the parable, ‘Come and share your master’s happiness!’ to those faithful servants. Peace and joy are attributes of serving God. Using your God-given talents for the purpose God intended leads to these qualities.

God created us for a reason. Unfortunately, we were not born with an individual life manual; so we need to use The Manual (Bible) and spend time with God in order to discover his purpose for our lives. I can attest to a life of using my gifts and talents unwisely and wisely. The results of the unwise choice led to defeat, low-self esteem, heart break, and lies. So far, the wise choice has harvested peace, joy, self-fulfillment, purpose, direction, self-worth, and a good name.

I encourage you to use your talents to build the kingdom of God. Throughout my short life, I have met many talented people. In attempts to separate myself from the pack, I pursued higher education and certifications to add to my resume. Some were with good intentions, some were not. The more mature I become, the more I realize that I simply am not good at some roles, regardless of the training. Self-acceptance is the beginning of fulfilling God’s plan for your life. Moses had a tough time accepting his God-given calling. He argued with the Lord, until God designated his brother, Aaron to assist him. God comforted Moses informing him that He would ‘…teach both to speak and what to do’ (Exodus 4:1-14). The Bible makes reference to God becoming angry with Moses’ initial response; however, the faithful grace of God prevailed. God added neccesities to have His purpose fulfilled to a willing vessel, Moses. The same can happen for you.

Fortunately for us, God does not change His mind. When he makes a promise, it shall be fulfilled. There was a job, and then there was YOU. Fulfill your purpose! Discover and embrace it! Begin your journey with the first step of accepting His plan for communion through Jesus Christ. Do not be separate from His Spirit. First, accept the plan of salvation as your foundation to fulfilling your destiny. It truly begins there!

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I was only pretending

One of the deciding factors to purchasing our home was the two block distance to our homeowner’s association pool. Summers in Fort Worth can be extremely hot. Having easy access to any type of water to drench your body is a plus. When the slip-n-slide and sprinkler will not do, off to the pool we go.

This past Memorial Day, floats, diver toys, and kids filled the pool. The number of people heightened my wife and I awareness of our children. While she was busy with our youngest son, I ‘pool floated’ hidden under dark shades and a visor watching our eight year old son. His verbal and physical interaction with others clearly indicated that he was becoming a young man.

After about an hour of being at the pool, my son and one of his female friends decided that they were going to fight for my pool raft. Instead of allowing them to ‘pull and tug’, I encouraged them to share the raft. It was large enough to support their weight and size. As they floated together, our floatie-secured 2 year old quickly joined them. He was greeted with a kiss from his affectionate brother. Within seconds, he was crying to be removed, desiring to float on his own. His mother removed him, turned away, and within seconds, my oldest son made his first attempt to kiss a girl (on the cheek). Luckily, she turned away and gave him evil eyes.

After examining myself, I felt my son needed to be held accountable for his actions. Since kindergarten, his mother and I had stressed the importance of not improperly touching or kissing anyone. He was well-aware of our expectations and his role.

While walking home, he was asked about the kiss. He shared with us that he was only pretending and did not kiss her. I began with my long dad speech of how a girlfriend/wife means responsibility. His body language about the matter was very lax indicating his lack of concern for my views; however, he did apologize for his behavior. I appreciated the apology, but didn’t experience a peace of mind regarding his understanding.

I couldn’t seem to let go of what happened. The matter greatly disturbed me, because of my past relationship with girls/women. I do not desire for my sons to live a similar lifestyle. One of the key deterrents of the girls, that I didn’t pursue, was an accountability factor. Whether the accountability was a questioning parent, big brother, bullying uncle, or annoying cousin of the girl; it got my attention and kept me away from girls that were not worth the trouble. Unfortunately for my son, the young girl didn’t have any similar advocates. Due to his comfort level, I would have to play all roles.

The God-given idea was to have him inform the girl’s father of his kiss attempt. I hoped that this would provide substance to this much-needed to learn lesson. Well, to say the least, my son was extremely frightened. His body language immediately changed, once he was informed of the confession he would make. He cried to his mother in complete fear of the unknown. She gently consoled him with affirming words, but I continued to ‘drive home’ our concern. Fortunately for my son, the girl’s father was not home; however, the mother was. She expressed her concern for my son and her daughter. The point was made.

When I was a young boy, my mother held me to similar standards. I can recall a friend spreading a rumor about me and a neighborhood girl. My mom heard about the rumor and questioned me. The story was totally untrue; however, she was not convinced. She decided to speak with the girl’s mother. The girl’s mom confronted me. I was held accountable for my part in creating this rumor. A lesson was learned. I never attempted to date the girl, again or participated in such a rumor.

Children, especially young boys, need to be held accountable for their actions. Proverbs speaks of how disciplining your children will give you rest (29:17), hope (19:18), and a future (22:6). Also, the wisdom-filled book of the Bible states that not disciplining your child will bring you shame (29:15) and demonstrates unhealthy love (13:24). God encourages us to confront our brothers and sisters, who sin against us. Scripture informs Christians to confront the offender with another believer, if he/she doesn’t acknowledge his wrongdoings after the first confrontation (Matthew 18:15-16). This is why it’s so important for a mother and father to be on the ‘same page’ when it involves discipline.

Living a righteous life amongst your children will give you more credibility than your parental authority in confronting your children about ungodly issues. Teaching godly lessons early in life may prevent severe issues in the teenage and young adult years. Let’s all be encouraged to love our children, the way God loves us (Hebrews 12:5-8).

Yeah, I'm Bragging! Psalms 34:2

For the last 12 years, I can honestly say that I have faithfully tithed (given 10% of my income to the Christian church). The church I joined as a young adult strongly taught the principle. Thank God, it was something that I never had struggles.

When I began, the amount was significantly less than what is given now. There was truly no pressure, worries, or concerns about the money gone. Of course, I thoroughly understood why God encouraged me to give, but I wasn’t thinking about why- just giving it. At the end of the year, I was (am) always amazed by the overall amount of donations claimed.

Years later, when I met my wife, I encouraged her to practice the principle of faithfully tithing. Lucky for me, she was already a giver. Out of all the mistakes that we made during dating, inconsistent-to-not tithing was not one of them. We committed to honoring God in giving. For us, it was one of the easiest forms of worship.

As we grew in our giving, we began to see God’s protection, promotion, and provision. Our faith grew in Him. Our testimony to all was give and it will be given to you! (Luke 6:38). More than financial blessings took place, but relational, emotional, and physical blessings happened. There was no doubt that God’s principle instructed in Malachi 3:8-12 was real. My wife and I were employed with decent salaries to easily support our family’s conservative lifestyle and financial responsibilities.

There was never a recognizable test of my faith in God’s ability to fulfill his promise regarding tithing, until about a year and half ago. I was offered an opportunity to relocate with my employer. Months before this opportunity, my wife had just given birth to our second son. She had always wanted to stay home with our children, but had worked full-time since being a mom. I had promised her while dating, that she would be able to stay home to be a full-time mom. The move would allow it. This was a blessing.

After securing the family in our new city, the reality of being the sole financial provider for my family began causing personal stress. I say personal, because I never fully expressed this to my wife. I should have, but my pride wouldn’t allow it. It was not that I was concerned with our income, but the economy. What if I lost my job? The idea of letting down my family and asking my wife to find a job (not a career) became fears of the unknown. At times, I allowed my emotions to overtake me.

One thing, I have learned, while being a Christian, is God is faithful. If you are obedient to his commandments, blessings follow. You may not receive what you had in mind, but you will receive.

After realizing that I was focusing more on fear-based circumstances than God’s faithfulness to fulfill His promises, I was given peace. The gift that I most needed at the time. An increase in salary would have been a temporary fix. My underlining issue was unbelief, which caused inner turmoil and mental discomfort. Money can not repair insecurities. Peace from God can. God provided my sense of relief in His word. A conditional promise was given. Faithfulness had been displayed on my and His end. Why worry?

There have been times in my life, that I have been called ‘lucky’. I prefer to be called ‘blessed.’ One of major distinctions between blessed and lucky is obedience. Do not be surprised if you are not receiving, if you are not giving. It’s a biblical principle that is in use by many, who do not claim Christianity. Many principles that God has outlined for His people, when practiced by ungodly people, produces great results. If He said do this and this will happen- you can plan on it. His character is supreme (Numbers 23:19). If a seed is planted, a harvest is due; whether you have accepted Christ or not. Therefore, do not be upset (if you are) when ungodly people thrive financially, mentally, and intellectually. They may be extravagant givers to a Godly principle. True wealth is your soul prospering (3 John 1:2). Without Christ, it’s impossible.

God’s ultimate gift was Christ. If you are obedient to the principle of wholly receiving Him and giving Him (Matthew 28:19-20), you will more than thrive financially, physically, and intellectually, but spiritually. Be obedient to God’s principle of Salvation for your soul. Afterwards, offer Him to the world, then allow protection, promotion, and provision to overtake you.

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Why did I say that?

Everyone who really knows me is aware that fitness and diet are an important part of my lifestyle. I’m not a robot that only eats beans, veggies and fruits, and fish and chicken. I occasionally eat cookies and drink sugary refreshments. Although, I do enjoy my guilty pleasures; it is not a habit to eat them. My body (as most people) always responds awkwardly to an overhaul of sugar and unhealthy foods. As I get older, I also have noticed that burning off those extra calories is super tough. I desire to keep my body looking young for as long as possible.

The other day, after a long day of working, I entered the house to the smell of fresh homemade baked cookies and lasagna. My wife took the time to prepare food from scratch. This is completely out of the norm for her. She exclaimed, ‘I made homemade cookies for you to take to work and homemade lasagna for dinner!’ Without delay, I said ‘Man, you went carb crazy!’ Right after speaking, my wife eyes began watering and I realized that I was an idiot for the moment.

About a week prior to this incident, my daily devotional covered the subject of mastering the tongue. The author made reference to James 3:1-12. This passage of scriptures talks about our inability (independent of God) to tame the tongue. Verses 9 and 10 states…‘with the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be.’ How unfortunate that I have been unable to control my words at this stage in life. I have learned the more comfortable I become in relationships; if not careful, the more ridiculous my words. I do not desire to say hurtful words, but they are a reflection of my thoughts; so, I say it.

Before I started pursuing Christ, I was a prolific curser. I can recall swearing in public at a movie theater. A woman, who was offended by my language, asked me to stop. It was embarrassing, but not humiliating enough to discontinue. Thankfully ‘just because’ swearing immediately ended when I accepted Jesus as my Lord. Environment-provoked swearing did not. When someone or something upset me, if I did not say it aloud; I definitely cursed ‘in my head’. It was, and is, a constant battle to renew my mind to be more like Christ in order that I may speak blessings, instead of cursing.

Luke 6:45 reads…
New International Version- The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.

New Living Translation- A good person produces good deeds from a good heart, and an evil person produces evil deeds from an evil heart. Whatever is in your heart determines what you say.

New American Standard Bible- The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart.

To make a long story short, the answer to the title of this blog is ‘because of my heart’. Instead of expressing gratitude for a homemade meal, I choose to speak about the content of the food (quality of the gift). The food’s effect on my body was more important to me, than my wife’s act of service. Vanity over thanksgiving is my issue.

We all have ‘heart conditions’ that do not align with Jesus’ plan. In discovering these areas, we have a choice to change. Change begins with confession, then actively pursuing holiness through Bible reading, scripture meditation and spiritual awareness. It’s definitely ‘easier said than done’ as it may take time to change. However, as you seek the Lord, His character and priorities will become yours (James 4:8). Your nature will become His. Peace will enter your heart, and then peace is what you will speak. So, if you find your words making you sound like an idiot, pursue the Lord. He will change the overflow of your heart.

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Your Child Marries You

I’m a person that likes to think years in advance. This part of my personality always leads to asking hypothetical, but ‘eventual happening ‘questions. One day this led my wife and I to begin talking about our future daughter-in-laws. Although, our children attend Mother’s Day Out and the 2nd grade; it’s fun to envision their future.

Our sons have different personalities. One is super strong-willed, durably tough, prematurely likes sports, and a ‘night owl’; while the other is easily compliant and offended, artsy, and prefers to be in bed by 830p and awake by 6a (without an alarm clock). There are commonalities between the two boys such as their preference for mom over dad, but their differences are many.

The ‘future daughter-in-law’ conversation led to a question. What would you hate most about your daughter-in-law, if your son married someone identical to you? Now, I’m not the sharpest husband in regards to saying the right things. I have made some downright ‘bone head’ statements to my wife that I dearly paid. However, this question was not directed towards my wife confessing her shortcomings, but simply a ‘what if’. After my wife answered the question, I did the same. Eliminating our deficiencies created our ideal daughter-in-law.

Answering the ‘question’ promoted a greater sense of urgency towards pursuing a Christian lifestyle. My children have unknowingly become great motivators. I don’t mind working longer hours, using extra money to pay for the best camps, daycares, or education, and eating dinner every night at the dinner table. With this said, I do mind waking up at night to a crying kid, watching Yo Gabba Gabba instead of Sports Center or Lost, and sharing the shower with a ‘needing to go to bed soon’ toddler. The issue with my ‘I minds’ is the self-serving attitude. I’m aware that this mindset is being witnessed and learned by my sons. If it’s not resolved, they will more than likely exemplify the same character towards their children. Their foundation for this attitude will be ‘my dad did it!’ I have chosen to desire the better attitude of ‘Jesus did it’. If I am to live my belief, there’s no better initiative than my children acting out Christ’s behavior, due to witnessing my lifestyle choices.

Jacob, father of the twelve tribes of Israel, had a deceiving mother, Rebekah. She encouraged her son to deceive his father, Isaac, to bless him with a birthright that rightfully belonged to his older brother, Esau (Genesis 27). Of course, Jacob prevailed in his conniving plan, but later produced deceiving children. His sons would trick him into believing his favorite son, Joseph, had been killed (Genesis 37:12-36). Unfortunately, the root of deception could be traced back to Rebekah and maybe further, if we knew the whole story.

The same will happen to your children and grandchildren, if you do not choose to deal with your inconsistencies in living a holistic Christ life. I realize this truth the older my son’s become. The ‘funny’ things I do in the comfort of my home is not so ‘funny’ when my children do it in public (or at home). You’re an example is a reality.

Most parents desire to see their children joyful, prosperous, ‘well taken’ care of, and in healthy relationships, the list goes on. If you are not providing a good example or insincere in your religious attempts, please expect them to mimic your actions. Allow your children to motivate you to become closer and authentic in your personal relationship with the Lord. Children need to witness your Faith in action. They need substance- a solid foundation that never shifts, regardless of the circumstances (Ephesians 2:19-22). This foundation is Jesus Christ. Do not assume they know who you worship and praise, but be specific in your delivery (Deuteronomy 6:6-7). Specifically address Him!

If we follow the ‘map’ Jesus Christ laid out for us to follow, we will be free from concern or worry (Philippians 4:8-9); due to the seeds we planted in our children’s life. Then, if your child marries someone like you, you would have peace (2 Corinthians 6:14-16). They would harvest a wonderful return. Remember, your children will carry your family legacy (Psalms 127:3). Invest in them by investing in yourself. Start by asking God for direction. They are watching you!

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Boldly Speak Up!

About five months ago at the gym, I overheard a member (Jim) expressing to his workout buddy his wife’s (Sue) challenge of holding a friend accountable. Sue’s challenge and concern was directed towards Jim’s friend having an affair. Jim’s friend’s wife was unaware of the situation; however, her husband was indirectly bragging about his conquest to Jim and others. Unfortunately, Jim’s relationship to the adulterer was connected to convenience of some sort (I’m not sure what), so it made confrontation undesirable. From what I gathered, while being noisy, Jim decided that he was going to accept Sue’s challenge by expressing to his friend that his behavior was ungodly, unacceptable, and damaging all his current relationships. During Jim’s conversation at the gym, he made it a point to announce his Christian faith. He believed that adultery was a sin and was aware of his error for being accepting of this behavior. Needless to say, I was impressed from what I overheard. So impressed, that I pulled Jim aside, before he left the gym, acknowledged my appreciation and admiration for his courage and commitment to our shared faith.

About three months ago, I started instructing fitness boot camp classes in the early mornings at the gym. Upon arriving to the group fitness room, Jim and some of his workout buddies were in the room performing an unscheduled, non-group fitness approved workout called ‘P90X’. They had moved in a flat screen television and DVD player. I thought it somewhat strange that they were at a health club performing a workout program designed for home; however, I did not own the gym, so I had no real authority to express my opinion. I had a class starting in 10 minutes. According to their video, they had 18 minutes remaining. I had a dilemma that I was totally unprepared. I asked Jim and his friends, when they would be complete. I was immediately met with an explanation from Jim of how long they knew (in a relationship with) the owner of the gym. After hearing the life relationship to the gym owner, I was aware that I had a bigger problem than eight minutes. I was really surprised by Jim’s reaction. All I could remember was our last conversation. How he had announced to be an accountability partner to his friend. His reaction to my question disturbed and angered me. I simply had to calm myself. Long story short: I waited until they were complete, before I started my class. This became a pattern. I showed up to prepare for class; there was Jim and friends. I would inform them of the class times and days; they would be annoyed and overstay into the start time of my scheduled group fitness class. Eventually, I thought they would be respectful and honor our class and its participants; however, this did not happen. The gym owner and managers were made aware, but no success in keeping Jim and friends out of the room.

About two months ago, I had reached my tolerance level of Jim and his friends. I perceived from their actions that they had no respect for me or the group fitness participants. It was time to handle this situation. One morning, while driving to the gym, I prayed asking the Lord to help me be kind, respectful, and not contrary to my Faith in my actions. I believed what I prayed would come to pass. Entering the gym, the front desk receptionists smiled as she always does, when Jim and his friends are in the group fitness room. My heart began pumping through my chest, literally. I entered the room. Immediately, eyes began rolling and sighs were heard. Without any hesitation, I announced to them that they needed to be ‘gone’ in 5 minutes. Once again, Jim informed me of his relationship with the owner. This time, I was unfazed. There was no ‘backing down’, but courage, boldness, and assurance. As I spoke to Jim, I could see the shock in his eyes. The themes of my words were directed towards their blatant disrespect. After verbalizing my thoughts, I walked away ensuring their must needed departure in five (now two) minutes.

I decided to briefly separate myself from the situation by going to the restroom. While returning to the group fitness room, I heard Jim conveying his disbelief in me asking them to depart, so classes can be held on-time. Jim was so angry, he was swearing/cursing. As I walked into the room, I told Jim to ‘watch his mouth’. He then said to me that he only said, BULLSHIT! My immediate thought was ‘really!’ This angered me. I called Jim a ‘hypocrite’, that his preaching of Christianity (one day) and un-Christian actions (another day) was my basis. Of course, Jim was really upset by what I said.

After the situation ‘simmered down’ and I gave it some thought, I somewhat felt bad for calling Jim a hypocrite. I analyzed for a time period ‘why’ I felt this way. Did his actions demonstrate the opposite behavior of a Christian lifestyle? Did he acknowledge that he was a Christian? Did he state that his friend’s lifestyle was ungodly? Was he disrespectful to the gym, its employee, class, and participants? The answer to all my questions (from my interaction with Jim) was ‘yes’. So why, did I feel bad? His actions and words were obviously hypocritical to what he professed.

I’m convinced that I felt ‘bad’ because of the politically correct world that I reside. As a believer, every day, I encounter offensive behavior or language at my workplace. The perpetrators are not apologetic or aware. There appears to be no thought given to my offense. Profanity and indecencies are accepted as commonalities among adults. This is how worldly people communicate and act, not Christians. Therefore, when a self-professed Christian begins acting ungodly, you must remind him/her of their ultimate calling in being witnesses for Jesus Christ. Quickly get their attention and don’t feel bad for it (Galatians 6:1). Yes, we have all fall short of the glory of God, but direct, intentional, and un-repented sin must be met ‘head on’. Your courage to provide another view to your brother/sister in Christ may save them from a very unfortunate situation. If you are met with objection, know that its not you they reject, but Jesus Christ. Stand firm in your Faith and stand for righteousness. If the truth will not be accepted by them, it will definitely set you free in expressing it. We all need accountability in our life. If you are on the receiving end of correction, for your own sake, repent and ask God to help you comply to His way of living. It is for your own good.

This may not be the most encouraging blog written, but it can be, if you will accept the challenge to be a witness for Christ. There are black and whites and yes and no’s. The bible is not antiquated; it’s the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). God’s words still apply to modern day life. Verbally and physically express your concern for ungodly living to Christians and non-Christians. Set yourself apart and be holy (1 Peter 1:16). Please, be encouraged and live for Jesus Christ.

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