Standing to The Star-Spangled Banner

Lately, I’ve been having many blunt conversations with my oldest son about sex, race, religion, politics, and relationships. I’ve come to the conclusion that what I value most (my faith) is what I pray and hope will transfer into a way of life for him. In trying to connect with him, I’ve used countless examples. Some ‘hit’, while other analogies clearly missed the mark. He has expressed a genuine interest in my personal history. As a matter of fact, his little brother and he constantly ask me to tell them a story during dinner.

The other day, I pitched an idea to have a Christmas play at our house, possibly in the garage or indoors. Of course, the play was going to be about Jesus with a comical spin intending to entertain and encourage our neighbors. Nothing sacrilegious, but a God honoring rendition of the ‘reason for the season’. Needless to say, they ‘shot it down’. Our eldest verbally expressed that mentioning Jesus may be offensive to some people and that it was a private matter.

Say what?!?

He went on to say that his school asked them if they wanted to make holiday cards, which he decided he did. While making the cards, he states his teacher instructed them not to write ‘Merry Christmas’ on the card; due to a possibly of offending some recipients, who may not celebrate Christmas. Our assumption is he translated her words into thinking that mentioning Jesus Christ in public was offensive.

As many Sunday schools, Christian camps, open expressions of Christian faith, Christian prayers, and bible verses, my son have experienced; he still was influenced into believing his faith wasn’t a matter to be demonstratively expressed.This opened the door to share a childhood story.

Being quite the odd ball in school, I had a tough time connecting with the “cool” kids. Thank God for sports, because it sincerely was my saving grace; although, athletics did bring its challenges. The overall biggest trial for me was the pre-game ritual of standing to the Star-Spangled Banner. In my community, Christianity wasn’t the primary faith. Differentiating from my family's culture, the prevalent religion didn’t stand for the playing of the United States’ national anthem – they sat. So hearing, ‘Oh, say can you see…’ before every game, sometimes created more anxiety than the actual game.

One time, while visiting a rival high school game with some classmates, I chose not to stand during the playing of the national anthem. I remember feeling extremely awkward; as it was my culture to revere this national hymn.  I decided from that point, if placed in the predicament again, that I would stand. In my adolescent mind, there was no righteous cause or purpose – other than, it was very unnatural for me. The awkwardness to sit outweighed the awkwardness to stand. Although, my culture was the minority in my small town; it was sufficient to encourage me to stand (pun intended). I pray that my children will encounter the same conviction to ‘stand’ for God.

Jesus Christ commissioned Christians to make disciples.  Will this ever get accomplished, if we are quiet and politically correct in our actions and words? I would argue that it’s virtually impossible.

In the past week, I have visited with and heard from several Christians who are upset about the re-election of President Barack Obama. In addition, I’ve read some unbelievable anti-Obama Facebook and Twitter post. My thought process behind this all is… ‘Do you really believe your emotional ‘shoot from the hip’ reaction to the presidential election is going to change the world?’ The likelihood of someone altering their point of view or religious belief from being called ‘dumb, uninformed, baby killer, and ungodly’ is highly doubtful. Yet it seems, a common way of expression for dislike. This clearly is not an effective way to communicate, positively influence, or lead anyone. Furthermore, Jesus Christ modeled no behaviors which promote these actions. Instead, he affectionately served his ‘circle of influence’ in every way possible -- allowing his actions and words to bring about change. At times, he may have spoken in parables; however, his intentions and instructions were clear.

How does this relate to you? Personally, I have a great opportunity. My children will face faith oppositions throughout their school years and beyond. As the leader of my home, I must showcase Christianity consistently and boldly. If I never demonstrate my faith, then bash my children for their inactions; there’s a strong probability that they would turn with ‘deaf ears’.

Being proactive is key. Identify problems before they occur is difficult; however, wisdom points to your lack of involvement and root causes. Jesus Christ wasn’t passive aggressive – he was direct. He was focused and committed. People knew his principles. I believe we should be the same. Most recoveries take place when Christians are intentional and purpose driven. When our ‘circle of influence’ responds in a way that is contrary to our faith, we should ask ourselves, “What am I constructively doing to make a difference?” If you are not deliberately doing anything, it’s possible that you are violating a direct commandment given by Jesus Christ.

Get involve and allow your action and words to speak God’s will! Don’t have a seat, when God has directed you to stand. Proactive boldness should be a characteristic of the Christian culture, not reactive boldness. Remember, God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.  Therefore, anyone who rejects… instruction does not reject a human being but God…

If you feel an urge to recommit or commit your life to God’s will, please select the link below.

Commit for the 1^st time –

http://www.intouch.org/you/all-things-are-new/content?topic=how_do_i_accept_jesus_as_my_savior_all_things

Commit to SERVE –

http://www.intouch.org/you/all-things-are-new/content?topic=does_god_really_want_me_to_serve_all_things

I couldn't agree more!

Manhood as defined by the Bible requires men to put the needs and best interests of others before their own. It's about living sacrificially. A man uses his strength and influence to help others and defend those who cannot defend themselves. Read how manly this verse sounds and how it speaks powerfully to a man's heart:

"I rescued the poor who cried for help and the fatherless who had none to assist him...I made the widows heart sing...I was eyes to the blind and feet to the lame. I was father to the needy; I took up the case of the stranger. I broke the fangs of the wicked and snatched the victims from their teeth." Job 29:12, 13, 15-17 (NIV).

God gives men a mandate throughout the bible to protect women and children and be His representative here on earth. "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this; to look after orphans and widows in their distress" James 1:27 (NIV)…

Authentic men are passionate, fierce, and noble-they care. In fact, they are a little dangerous, but it's a good dangerous. You might not see this passion on the exterior, but it's bubbling under pressure just beneath the surface, forcing its way into every area of his life. They have a spiritual longing for adventure, for a battle to fight that's bigger than themselves, for significance in their lives. Like modern-day gladiators they stand in the ring facing the challenges of life with courage and passion.

Wow! I couldn’t agree more. Each aging year, I become more aware of my mortality. I've drawn the conclusion that those who are honored in their afterlife -- gave their lives for the well-being of others. Whether it was a symbolic or literal death, the individuals most consider truly worthy of honor are those who gave up something for their present quality of life.

When is the last time that you gave something of yourself without expecting a return? Possibly today or yesterday for your kid… How about outside of your immediate family? Quite honestly, I am challenged by the Bible’s encouragement to look after ‘orphans and widows’. I can’t recall the last time I intentionally served a parentless child or a woman who had lost a husband. In America, there’s a growing trend of men who choose not to care for their own children, yet alone caring for orphans and widows.

Here are some direct challenges inspired from the quote posted above.

1. What would your family, friends, and peers say that you are passionate about? Does your passion align with God’s will? Do you care if your passions support His will?

2. What would those who are in your circle of influence say you are ‘fighting’ that will influence eternity (‘bigger than you’)? If you were to die today, what would your family say you stood for?

3. Is there proof that you demonstrate courage in pursuing your passions and dealing with daily life issues?

Knowing the ‘for sure’ answers to these questions may give the direction, which you are headed. If you would be disappointed with your representation at your own funeral; it’s time to make some changes. Connect your will to God’s plan, and go after what you really want out of life. Living a life for others with good intentions and under God’s authority is fulfilling, exciting, and culture altering.

Small unusual steps towards your goals are better than not moving at all. http://www.intouch.org/resources/all-things-are-new/content/topic/how_do_i_accept_jesus_as_my_savior_all_things

The excerpt was taken from a blog entitled In Search of Masculinity –Part 2 (http://blogs.christianpost.com/parenting/in-search-of-masculinity-part-2-622/) written by Rick I. Johnson.

“Hey dad, there’s beer in the fridge!”

If you are a follower of my blog, you are aware that I have occasionally exalted my parent’s; however, they were not perfect. In the most honorable and respectable way that I can say this, my dad was an alcoholic. I place much emphasis on ‘WAS’, because while I was in college, he completely discontinued drinking. Unfortunately during my childhood, he did not provide the best example of ‘what is considered’ healthy alcohol consumption. Due to this, I believe, an unhealthy view of drinking was developed.  I have always been ‘wishy-washy’ towards social drinking.  

When our oldest son was younger, my wife and I chose to call any type of alcoholic drink - grown folk’s juice. He would ask, ‘Hey, what are you drinking? May I have some?’ Our consistent reply… ‘No, you can’t. This is grown folk’s juice’. As he has become older, we didn’t hide the occasional wine bottle or mixed drink. However, he has never seen beer in the fridge. The other day while grabbing a few items at a local Wal-Mart, I came across the beer cooler. A desire quickly crossed my mind and I followed my thought to purchase a six-pack of 8 ounce Coors Light (I’m a lightweight!). After drinking two, I pulled the other four from the freezer and placed them in the fridge. The very next day, while I was outside tending our flower bed, my oldest son opened the garage’s entry door and yelled “Hey dad, there’s beer in the fridge!” Immediately, I was embarrassed and thought, “Great, son... Thanks for sharing… Would you like to mention how I backed up the toilet, too?” However, instead of yelling at my kid, my wife and I decided to use this as an opportunity to visit with him about alcohol. 

We discovered that my son judged me based on his discovery of beer. He felt that I (we) shouldn’t drink at all. We were surprised by his judgment. Mostly, our amazement centered around his views on alcohol. We’ve never taught condemnation of drinking; as a matter of fact, we did the exact opposite. We drank wine and margaritas in his presence; however, he has never witnessed us drunk or hosting parties including drinking.  

I did my best explanation of how ‘a drink’ was not considered a sin and closed the dispute acknowledging his entitlement to his own views. My only saving grace was reflecting on his love for soft drinks. One day, after witnessing his onslaught of ‘suicides’, his mom and I limited him to a one cup (filled with ice) soft drink per outing. Even after explaining soda’s lack of nutritional value, he continues. At an early age, he was taught that soft drinks are liquid candy to simply be enjoyed as a treat. I informed him that alcohol was the same, but for adults over the age of 21. Thankfully, he didn’t bring up its mind altering affects because my argument possibly would have been highly ineffective.

Now, I’m processing our conversation.  What comes to mind is 1 Corinthians 14:33, which refers to God not being associated with confusion. The bible passage includes this scripture within God’s instruction for orderly worship. Here are more scriptures that come to mind: 1 Corinthians 10:31-33. These three verses encouraged the following: 1. whatever you eat, drink, or do – do all to the glory of God, 2. cause no one to stumble in their faith by your actions, and 3. allow what you do to lead others to Christ. This group of scriptures was under ‘Do all to the Glory of God’ section. Combining the subtitle of these two passages, Orderly Worship + Do all to the Glory of God, I’m wrestling with a different conclusion.

My wife and kids are well aware of my passions towards allowing the bible to govern our life. I would have to admit that it would be quite hypocritical to not allow my spirit to be transformed by these scriptures. Also, I believe that I would be doing my son a huge disservice by not revisiting this issue. Although, I still do not believe that ‘a drink’ will send you to hell. I now have a different point of view. My consistent goal is to align my spirit with God’s view. To accomplish a level of worship and actions that is pleasing to Him. Based on what I read and my son’s drinking perception, I have some serious praying and decision making to do.

The first step to aligning your will with God’s will is accepting His way of salvation.
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The Walking Dead

The other night, I searched through Netflix looking for a new series to watch. I love suspense-filled dramas and action, so typically I look in these genres first. I stumbled across a 4.5 star rated television series, The Walking Dead. The show description seemed interesting and worthy of my ‘lying in the bed’ downtime; so I gave it ‘a shot’. Wow! It provided quite the entertainment. By the second episode, I was intensely grabbing my phone with sweaty hands, while kicking my feet and loudly calling the victims ‘fools’ for not doing what I told them.


After my wife had completed her nightly ritual, she jumped in bed, leaned over for a goodnight kiss, and quietly asked if I wanted to pray. Absolutely, it’s the norm. We always start with thanksgiving, and then move to specific requests of needs for us and others. Occasionally, we will pray for a good night’s sleep; as I did this particular night. Well, guess what, I didn’t sleep well at all. For some strange reason, I dreamt of zombies all night. “Come on God, I prayed for rest. Why didn’t you deliver ‘God of Peace’? I had to work all day on 6 hours of interrupted sleep.”

Rhetorical question alert: Why was my prayer for rest not fulfilled?

I was delusional to thought that sleep would be peaceful. My mental state was affected by a bad decision. There’s no way of reaping long-term benefits from polluting your mind, body, spirit, soul, and relationships. Prayer isn’t a guaranteed solution to override bad choices. However, godly living can prevent most, if not all, miserable results.

If you desire health in any area of your life, start with foundational principles which lead to success. Verbally professing a conditional promise of God (scripture) with contradicting actions is pointless. Yes, faith is the substance of things hope for; however, praying for (something) when your lifestyle reflects (nothing) is absurd. For example, overindulging in areas, which God has given us freedom through Jesus Christ to enjoy, can lead to death/disaster. There are so many examples which I could provide from my own past mistakes to current ones. We daily face crossroads were the decision to place God’s foundation first is optional. Not knowing what the bible says about life is a personal problem. In life, ignorance is not bliss. What you don’t know – can hurt you. You may be praying for something, that the bible has already informed is the opposite will of God. Yet, your lack of discipline to get the information you need is holding you back from acting on and receiving God’s promise.

According to Genesis, God breathe his life into man and he became a living creature. God is still breathing through his word (the Bible). If you are not allowing it to change your lifestyle, you could become ‘The Walking Dead’.

Start here for foundation regarding your spiritual health.
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A Slow Progression

Last night I read a story about an ex-pastor who turned atheist. Quite frankly, I was not surprised by the article, but more mindful of a statement. When asked about her loss of faith, she responded,”… it was very, very gradual. Actually there's not really one single moment where I can look back and say ah, that was the moment. It was kind of a slow progression.”


After reading her reasoning, I almost discontinued reading the article because the remaining words seemed redundant. I immediately recognized that this can happen too many, including myself. No one is free from losing their faith. Inactivity in pursuing an on-going relationship with God is a surefire precursor for disbelief of Scripture. Plenty of analogies and life stories are relevant in proving this as fact.

Every man and woman is daily granted the opportunity to serve the Lord through their actions and words. The more faith you have in God, the more apt you are to please Him. The ‘slow progression’ begins with your actions of disbelief. If you believe God is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him- you are going to seek Him! If you believe God gives grace to the humble and mocks the proud – you more than likely will not be too boastful! If you believe that anyone who does not provide for his household is worse than an unbeliever- you are going to provide! The list goes on.

Becoming an atheist starts with deciding to do the opposite of what God says without expecting consequences. It’s hard to argue belief in God, while living a life contrary of His encouragements. Without faith, it’s impossible to please Him. Sometimes, there are no proofs – simply scripture and the guidance of His Spirit. Your trust combined with actions determines your belief status. Faith alone is not enough.

James 2:19-24 (Amplified Version) reads the following:

You believe that God is one… So do the demons believe and shudder…!


Are you willing to be shown, you foolish fellow, that faith apart from works is inactive and ineffective and worthless?


Was not our forefather Abraham justified (made acceptable to God) by [his] works when he brought to the altar as an offering his [own] son Isaac?


You see that [his] faith was cooperating with his works, and [his] faith was completed and reached its supreme expression [when he implemented it] by [good] works.


And [so] the Scripture was fulfilled that says, Abraham believed in (adhered to, trusted in, and relied on) God, and this was accounted to him as righteousness (as conformity to God’s will in thought and deed), and he was called God’s friend.


You see that a man is justified (pronounced righteous before God) through what he does and not alone through faith [through works of obedience as well as by what he believes].


Do not allow your faith to be mocked by your actions. Choose to grow in the Lord by better understanding and acting on His word. It’s truthfully better to take small steps towards him that thoughtlessly ‘backpedaling’ away from Him.

Stay alert and encouraged!

Why are we cheering, again?

About two weeks ago attending church service, a minister approached the stage with a testimony. He exclaimed that ‘Brother Bob’ recently had triple bypass surgery; however, he quickly recovered and was able to leave the hospital sooner than later. ‘Brother Bob’ was such a miracle to his physician that the doctor departed the medical room in tears. Praise the Lord! Then, of course, everybody rejoiced with shouting and clapping.


My initial thought in hearing this testimony: How did ‘Brother Bob’ get to a point where he had to have a triple bypass surgery? Maybe we should be talking about that?

Sounds pretty judgmental, huh? Maybe a little bit; although, it may be necessary to evaluate. Is it possible that we are not examining where are decisions are leading us?

I celebrate the Lord for all his wonderful blessings which He has allowed in my life. Many are purely by grace, while others are connected to obedience and service. One grace-filled blessing is being an American. I paid no price to live in this plentiful, opportunist, non-third world country. My mom happened to give birth to me in the United States. In contrast, my mental, spiritual, physical, financial, and emotional health has benefited from mostly consistent and independent decision making based on godly wisdom (James 1:2-8).

I’m aware there are times when life scenarios are out of our control. We suffer for the wrong doings of others. A natural disaster destroys our homes or injures love ones. However, a high percentage of the sufferings experienced in life are from our lack of discipline and knowledge mixed with bad decisions. For most, there’s minimum time taken to self-reflect and gain valid information. These practices will eventually lead to a life crisis. The need for restoration will become a high priority. Typically, the damage is so severe, that even with repair, there is a low chance of fully recovering.

Most people desire comfort and a high quality of life. Unfortunately, many lack the ‘follow through’ and vision to achieve this level. A life with no purpose leads to normalcy. At the current state of our society, being average is not a good thing. Debt, divorce, disease, and depression are easy to attain. These require no discipline to achieve. Simply do what you want with no regard for self-restraint, values, and goal setting.

Choose not to make excuses to improve areas in your life which you have any interest. Being over-consumed with one aspect of life is a general culprit to not being well-balanced. If one doesn’t take a well-rounded approach, their life will expectantly lead them to a road of success in that one area. This more than likely will cause deficiencies because of the rejection to accept and improve your current status.

I remember my oldest son needing assistance wiping his bottom after using the ‘potty’. I detested the responsibility of doing this chore. As a matter of fact, one time when my wife was away, I placed him in the shower instead of using toilet paper. After deciding that I had enough, my oldest was strongly encouraged and taught how to clean his bottom. I figured, he could brush his teeth and build train track models... then he could ‘wipe his butt’. Yes, he may leave some undesirable undies in the hamper, but he’ll learn and eventually he has to – so why not now. At the time, he lacked the desire and information, but he was taught and learned.

In hindsight, my wife and I would be embarrassed to have raised a 10 year old with no discipline to clean his butt. This surely would have brought about medical problems. If he were not taught this hygienic practice and actually discipline himself to do it; how ridiculous would it have been for us all to rejoice that he quickly recovered from an infection caused by not wiping his bottom? Someone surely would think, ‘Did your parents not teach you to clean yourself? Geez! Who gets an infection from not cleaning after bowel movements? That’s just nasty.” Well as silly as this analogy sounds, that’s the world’s culture today with most issues we face. We celebrate overcoming mediocrity! Be grateful for restoration and growth, but expect more of yourself. Be mindful of what your celebration represents about your overall goals and expectations of yourself.

Choose not to be consumed with what comes easy, but increase your territory. Surround yourself or follow those who have accomplished greatness in your areas of opportunity. This may avoid a life of reflective questioning ‘why am I cheering again?’


Celebrate an abundant life.
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The Whistleblower

For 4 years now, our street has hosted an annual spring block party. Neighboring streets join us to celebrate a day of community fellowship from bounce houses, grilling, to adult and children interactive games. It’s a great way to become familiar with your neighbors, while enjoying awesome weather and eating an array of food.


Each year (mid-party), I’m allowed the opportunity to flex my inner game show host by leading the children and adults into prize-winning competitive, fun games. Contending against bounce houses is tough. Sustaining kid’s attention, while water is gushing out of a 32 feet tall by 25 feet long slide/bounce house is challenging but cool. Typically, I lose my voice; so this year, I decided to use a whistle as a signal for starting and stopping. It worked extremely well until we played musical chairs.

If you know anything about or ever played musical chairs, you know that this game is enjoyable for the audience and participants. However, it can easily become aggressive promoting children and adults to become emotionally upset. Since I didn’t properly plan, there was no stereo involved. The children moved to the tunes of my lovely whistled-out symphony.

Before we began the game, there were several practice rounds to assure every kid understood the rules. Realizing that I could be biased by supporting my two sons, I informed the audience that I would be turning my back to the ‘musical chair-ers’. Also, the audience was told that they would have to hold the children accountable to the rules of the game. If they were out, let them know. Adding my own special touch, they were also informed, ‘if they started to cry to promptly find their mom…’ Tacky I know, but it was quite hilarious because some kids actually did, including my oldest. Geez!

We began the game. Of course, the youngest children were out first. As I turned around to remove each chair, you could sense the intensity thickening and anxiety increasing. With only 5 kids remaining, parents became more verbally demonstrative. They exclaimed to me, ‘They are sitting down before you blow the whistle! They are holding on to a chair!’ So after getting down to three children, I re-did the games and reinforced the rules. Finally, I asked the crowd, ‘why do you keep telling me – tell them – hold them responsible...’ After all, they were seeing what was happening. My back was intentionally facing them. Immediately, I received inspiration for this blog.

The message is simple. If you see someone doing something that would harm them, verbally hold them accountable (in love). Please - do not wait for someone else to intervene, when you are capable. Do not back down from ‘reinforcing the rules’. If you do not have a relationship with them, but are concern about their well-being; find a way to first demonstrate love (Hebrews 12:6). After doing so, let them know that they are harming themselves. Don’t wait for ‘the whistleblower’ to expose. He will not be as nice.

Be ready when the whistle blows!
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$250

A healthy (new) baby boy, new job in a location I strongly desired to be, new home, wife being able to become a stay at home mom… it was exciting times! Unfortunately with moving to a new city, there was a short season of staying in hotels and driving or flying home on my off days to visit my family. This was somewhat stressful, but easily manageable because I knew it was temporary.


After working many 12 hour days in a row, I was able to fly home for two days. My wife and baby son picked me up from the airport… I was very excited to see them. While driving home, my wife gave a ‘run down’ of her week. She clearly was enjoying her time away from work. Although, my wife was happy it was apparent that she had a few struggles in her new role. One scenario made this painfully clear.

Here’s my disclaimer: Sometimes, I can be a control freak. I have a habit of creating excel spreadsheets for family budgets, vacations, etc. If my wife spends a dollar, I (use to) want to know. Not really a great habit to have, when you are married to an independent woman who took care of herself and a child for two years before allowing your support. Anyways… back to the drive home from the airport.

My wife said, ‘I did something good for our family!’ Immediately, I sighed (in my heart). ‘A guy came around selling steaks in his truck and I got a deal for $250’. My immediate reply: “Really?!? Steaks out of a deep freezer from the back of pickup. Really?!? This can’t be happening. You need to give it back. Call and tell him to pick up the meat before he cashes the check. As soon as we get home!”

I was very upset. Thankfully, we had the money to fund the unnecessary purchase, but it was clearly the lack of communication and the amount paid which caused concern. I knew that my wife’s intentions were good. She really thought (and may still feel) that this was a good investment; however, the fact that we did not communicate about such a purchase upset me. Knowing our roles and sharing major decisions were seriously the biggest struggles we faced in the beginning stages of our relationship. After only 3 pre-marital counseling sessions, our counselor discerned that we would be challenged in these areas. What an understatement! With 6 years of marriage ‘under our belt’, we do a better job of communicating and staying within our God-given roles. We have worked out a few kinks with systems that suit our personalities. We still have a way to go, but truly things have gotten better.

Sometimes, the hardest thing to do in all relationships is peacefully accepting your role. I have found that most people have an opinion of how someone is doing a job wrong. It’s human nature. Whether it be the boss’ organization, the coach’s play, or the pastor’s sermon; someone is critiquing. Even if the criticism is legitimate, it’s a form of rebellion. Unfortunately, God designed authority along with roles and responsibilities. Typically, a team of people are needed to successfully accomplish most goals. One person choosing to step outside the realms of their roles, while consistently questioning authority is detrimental to the healthy development of others. Ask Aaron and Miriam (Numbers 12:1-15)!

Do your best in the role you currently have. You will find that your ultimate calling will be fulfilled through your willingness to obey God (Psalms 138:8), where you are at and by cultivating your talents. God has a plan for us all. No one man’s gift is greater than another. We are all valuable. Learn from those in leadership. If you think you can do it better, when your time comes- DO IT BETTER!

Give Jesus your heart and life & see what God will do with it.
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Skinny Jean Saturdays

I just listened to the Christian rap single of a neighbor kid turned young man, Daniel Cooper aka ‘Danny Da Paperboy Cooper’. The name of his track is MOH( Ministry Over Hiphop). Quite frankly, it made me somewhat emotional. I heard his first album and was impressed, but not really moved. This single moved me. As I listened to the content of his lyrics, it was obvious to identify growth and maturity. More important, his worship to God was foremost. Simply put, this (honoring God before his passions) was the message.

Matthew 5:13-14 reads ‘You are the salt of the earth…You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven’.

After hearing the track for the third time, this is what came to mind.

It’s easy to ‘go with the flow’ of the crowd. Without giving much thought, you may find yourself saying or doing something that's mainstream and trendy. Whether it is the latest fashion or movie, you wear and watch without reflection. Your conscience may never filter that you are just like everyone else. Sometime ago, my wife made a profound comment. To loosely quote her: “Everyone who wants to be different, aims to be different. With time, they become friends with others who are ‘different’ not realizing that there’s a significant amount of ‘different’ people”. Her point: The different group is a ‘crowd’ not making them unique at all. They’re all doing the same thing. Whether it be rejecting  a conservative way of life or getting tattoos (I have 3), wearing skinny jeans (my wife wears them every Saturday), listening to only underground music, or drinking at coffee houses; they fail to realize what they set out to do is not being accomplished. Today, it appears honoring God by obeying and serving Him is truly as different as it gets.  
This lifestyle is truly challenging.

There are so many obstacles facing one who decides to act obediently to God’s command, especially for young, unmarried men and women. I remember how difficult it was for me as a single. There was no consistent one-on-one accountability or encouragement. The quiet rejections of my faith were directly obvious.  Now, the only change is having a companion to share my moral battles. This is why it’s so impressive witnessing a young man challenge, not only you, but himself to put God before his dreams. That’s noteworthy.

There’s a 1917  infamous poster of Uncle Sam pointing with the words “I WANT YOU…” It was used to recruit soldiers for World War I and World War II. God has been calling you in this fashion to fight his war since your birth. As corny as this sounds, ‘Answer the call!” Living a Christian lifestyle will not be convenient, as you will be offended, mocked, and categorized. However, if you want a life of meaningful purpose, that will leave a legacy to others; this is the life for you.

If you desire to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, please click on the link below.

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Charge It 2 da Game

Ever had a time, were you simply didn’t want to get out of bed; when you just wanted to turn off the alarm instead of hitting snooze multiple times? Have you ever wanted to punch (in the face) someone who tailgated you, while obnoxiously honking their horn eventually cutting you to arrive at their destination 15 seconds earlier? You may not have experienced these scenarios, but I’m confident that there have been times throughout your life when your emotions almost got or did get the best of you.

If ‘old me’ could go back in time and talk with ‘young me’, one of the main topics addressed would be not to base my decisions by my emotions. Some of the biggest mistakes in life, I’ve made, were created by how I felt at the moment. Without using discernment and looking at the obvious end results, I began a many failed pursuit. Some people believe that experience is a good teacher; however, looking at the world’s current affairs and society’s repeated offenses; I would strongly argue with this school of thought.In most cases, deciding not to act on your initial emotions leads to a better outcome. Unfortunately, this is slowly becoming a lost art. The discipline and will power needed to forgo an immediate response is becoming extinct. This principle is needed to attain a sustainable quality of life.

One of my biggest struggles as a young adult was spending money (that I didn’t have). In 1998, there was a rap artist by the name of Silkk The Shocker. He released an album entitled ‘Charge It 2 da Game’. This became my slogan when I used my credit card to purchase something that I needed to maintain an image, ‘Charge it to the game!’ Without going into great detail of this end result, anyone who owns a credit card knows how this story can and will conclude. Luckily for me, I had an epiphany and became really good friends with a Dave Ramsey fanatic, who encouraged me to pay off and stay out of debt. Is this emotionally, mentally, or socially easy to do? Absolutely not, but all people in high amounts of debt know, that living debt free truly gives one peace of mind and freedom to thoroughly enjoy life. So why aren’t more people making a decision to stay clear from relationship destroying debt? Consider their emotions.

Bad financial decisions are only one example of the ‘shoot from the hip’ emotional response. Proverbs 29:11 states ‘A fool expresses all his emotions, but a wise person controls them’ (God’s Word Translation). This is such a valuable amount of wisdom wrapped up in one sentence. Take heed. Think about the consequences of your emotional decisions. Even when you thoroughly process and ‘marinate’ on deciding; allow yourself to be challenged. What are the qualifications of your advisers? Do they have a track record of on-going success in the areas that you ponder?  Remember this, God covers it all. Challenge him in your decision making to give you an answer. Instead of picking up the phone, ‘drop to your knees’. Connect with Him through Jesus Christ, so you can petition with boldness as a righteous child of God. 

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Video Games + Mythical Creatures that 'battle'

Yesterday, I asked my oldest son was there anyone he looked up to? He shrugged his shoulders and said ‘no’. As a dad, I’m not quite sure how to handle that. I try pretty hard to be a good influence and role model for my sons.

My oldest is an early teen. His hobbies are video gaming, ‘battling’ spinning tops, and collecting Japanese action adventure inspired cards. To quickly sum it up, I have no interest in his passions. They are totally foreign and unexciting to me. Although, I do financially support his fix.

Recently, I signed him up for a basketball league. His mom and I were patiently waiting on him to express some interest in sports; however, this never really happened. Our fear of issues attached with not having structured extracurricular activities promoted us to ‘get the ball rolling’.

Luckily, he was placed on the most talented team in this novice league. They ended the season undefeated champions. At the completion of the championship game and award ceremonies, we had a light conversation about the season. I asked several questions to filter his opinion and true emotions. His response fed to one common subject, ‘I’m not sure if I want to continue because it’s hard’.  Although, he verbally and genuinely expressed having fun; the complex game of basketball took its toll. He often looked panicky. The occasional glance for confirmation was demonstrated in every game. His body language consistently shouted ‘am I’m doing the right thing?’ This culture was foreign to him.

What a dilemma?

Most people make decisions based on life experiences. Hopefully, we (all) learn from our mistakes and make better choices. When I was a child, there was a distinct time that my father unknowingly taught a principle.

One cold, snowy winter day in the Midwest, my dad decided that he was going to cut and gather a few truckloads of wood. As usual, I was forced to tag along. After my fingers went numb and my father was content with his work, we headed home. This same day, the varsity basketball team was having mandatory basketball practice. I was tired, and could care less, if I attended practice. As a freshman, my playing time was extremely limited and I was mostly considered a practice dummy. However, my father could sincerely careless of my fatigue and lackluster intents. He did not ask me if I wanted to go or how I felt about going, but instead drove me to practice and sat in the stands as I fumbled my way through the 90 minutes of torture.  I distinctly remember hating every minute of practice and my father, this day. However, by the end of the basketball season, I played a role in helping our team win a major post-season tournament.  Without the discipline my father instilled, this possibly could not have been. Although, I truly never developed a passion for basketball, the requirements towards rising in this sport were rewarding and integral in my adult development.

Am I’m saying that my son will have to play the same sport as I to learn the same lessons? I’m not. I’m conveying that children need direction, discipline, and consistent reinforcement to develop. Although, my son didn’t acknowledge a role model; (I believe) his current role models are electronically manipulating images and mythical creatures. Unfortunately for him, these examples do not have the ability to instill work ethic. You do.

In the Old Testament, there are plenty examples of father’s blessing their children. God set the model by his calling of Israel. He spoke their legacy before it took place. Although, they fought the new way of thinking and living; the willingness to be obedient and submissive to His authority eventually paid off. God, in his fatherly role, knew what was best for his children. He had a vision and purpose in mind and remained consistent until it was fulfilled. His concern for their overall, long term well-being superseded their immediate comfort. The Israelites’ blatant defiance during the process demonstrates their lack of vision and purpose. Unfortunately, they were former slaves lacking a positive role model of how things could be. Their minds were limited to ‘small thinking’.  Taking what was given, instead of taking what they could have (in God’s will).  Our children need visionaries, who have a plan, purpose, and goal for their life and parents/guardians who identify their talents and play an active role in their development.

As I did, you may need to refocus. Ask God for wisdom to help encourage and motivate your child. It may financially, mentally, and emotionally cost you, but in the long run; it will pay off. Whether your child will see the good in your efforts and choose to apply the principles they learned, while with you, is their decision. The peace of God, that you have done your part will be yours.

Be encouraged.

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What was the common theme of the 3 out of 4?

When my wife and I dated, I told her that I loved her for a month before she returned the favor. Now before you claim me a ‘sucker’ and hopeless romantic, know that I was her friend for approximately 2 years before we dated; so I felt comfortable in baring my soul. I had periodically exposed my vulnerabilities throughout our friendship. She was not so open in sharing her life stories.  It figured, as there are clear stereotypes towards women versus men. However with time and determination, I truly got to know her. She or I have never experienced this level of intimacy. I believe our individual significant heartbreaks connected us. Our true desire not to re-live or go through the self-induced experiences. Exposing and committing to not repeating our failures with the help of God enhanced every area of our relationship.

Most are aware that 50% or more of married couples are ending their unions, annually. Some are surprised when their friends call it quits, while others are not. In the early 2000s, I had a professional photo taken of me, 4 friends, and one of my friend’s son. The natural stage of a man’s life occurred… we got married. Unfortunately, only 1 of those 4 guys remains in his marital relationship. Was this surprising? Somewhat. We (all) were men who had accepted Christ and I believe (still) truly desire to please Him. However, 75% of my close friends played a role in ending their most intimate earthly relationship. 

In reflecting on these marriages, there was a common theme. Lack of intimacy… verbally, emotionally, and relational. As the unknown date of their disunion became closer, you could visually and physically identify the disconnect. Unfortunately, my friends were unaware and possibly careless of their connections. The unwillingness to share, listen, sacrifice, and commit took its toll and the inevitable took place.

I relate these relationships to a person’s individual relationship to God. God has clearly revealed his passionate love for you in all ways. Fortunately, he has significant amounts of patience. He can endure longer than a month of saying ‘I love you’ before moving on to the next soul. Similar to marriage, it takes sincere expression to experience a high level of intimacy and its benefits. If you are unwilling to be humble, express gratitude and your desire and need for the relationship; you can expect a breach or hardships. The less you choose to share, the greater the disconnect becomes. Honestly, it’s a simple principle. The concept of becoming one requires being vulnerable in your relationship with God and your spouse. It’s very possible that the things you are afraid to share and do may be the ‘glue’ that holds your relationship together for a lifetime.

If you feel separate from God and have yet to accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, allow me to confirm your unhealthy spiritual relationship. Begin the process of being able to have strong unions with people by accepting the ultimate prototype for all relationships.

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Idiot: A foolish or stupid person.

I've noticed a common theme in my blogs. I seem to talk much about my life in the past, and then I relate it to my current and future. I’m not ‘knocking myself’, but maybe it’s time for a different style, a different approach. I sincerely have a heart for people to accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. There’s frankly no other reason why I write these blogs than for this reason alone. This world (our country) is definitely in need of some humble praying and clear obedience and serving to a holy God. As cliché as it sounds, there is no better time than now to submit your life to God through Jesus Christ.

I have always been labeled by my wife and close friends as being quite blunt and excelling in TMI-ing (too much information). As a matter of fact, on Halloween day, my three year old son who verbally refused to physically allow a Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup to enter his bag was accused of having his dad’s trait by his grandmother (my mother-in-law). He doesn’t like peanut butter and clearly didn’t see a problem with letting anyone know, including his giver. Of course, I have learned to keep my views to myself a little better than my youngest son, but I still have a strong opinion. With this said, my beliefs that the Bible has the answers to all of life’s problems are stronger than ever.

The results from constant rejection of God’s way are evident; the whole blessing, which God’s promises from an obedient life of serving Him is absent. Unnecessary struggles are given to those who choose to reject His way (Deuteronomy 28:15-68). In life, there are expected challenges; so, one would think that a person would accept an easier way of living, when offered the opportunity. Surprisingly, most choose to scuffle with accepting; while, each rebellious act leads to deeper enslavement.

The joke is truly on you, if you believe that accepting Christ will limit your ‘fun’. Either, you will become a slave to Him or the other, so you might as well choose a ‘Master’ that is willing to offer you a good return. Not one that will cause you to lose your family, job, self-respect, health, family, and  finances. There are so many worldly examples which have been provided for us. With God’s discernment, you don’t need to tune to a Christian radio or television station to hear a sermon. Jesus may not be specifically mentioned, but that typically is exactly why the story is a story… ‘if you catch my drift’.

The benefits of living for God should inspire you, but quite honestly there’s so much more. God loves you and has practically set up a ‘no-fail, how to handle’ system for every area of life. Of course, this does not guarantee a pain-free life. A life of obedience to God’s commandments produces sustainable peace, joy, and freedom. If you choose to obey and serve Him, no life situation will take these attributes away from you. So, if you have yet to accept SERVING and OBEYING the one and only God (Father of Jesus Christ), who has already set up a blessing plan for you… Stop being an idiot and do so!  

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